Life Coaching 3Tired of having surface relationships in your life?

No one seem to have your back?

Fighting with your significant other wishing it was different?

Or worse, only attract relationships that are not available?

The Cornerstone is a class that prepares you for the right relationship for you and helps you be the person who will be successful in your relationships.

This is not a class where you get to get something.

This is not a class where we are going to tell you that you are wrong and need to be fixed.

Most everyone has difficulty with relationships in their life, either with themselves or with others. So we are only focused on the solution of having great relationships first with you and then with those that matter to you.

If all you focus on is what you can get, then all you will get is stuff that is outside of you.

The next Cornerstone is on November 19 and 20, 2016. It is the last one of the year. The next one is scheduled for February

To find out more about this please go to Cornerstone Page

IMG_3348I remember the first time I took a Personal Development Class that was not AA related. It was magical. And I chose to change my life.

I was pretty tired of being angry, pissy, that girl who had an edge, that woman who was not really liked.

I wanted my marriage to work.

I wanted my children home with me.

I wanted my work to matter even just to me. At the time I had just got laid off from my position where I looked after a 6.2 milion dollars of Floral Sales.

I wanted to feel like my life had meaning.

I wanted to not feel guilty for not always being there for my mom and my brother who had just finished a 72 day murder trial.

And that journey which had already begun, continued.

I was always goal driven but it seemed that I liked to do things the hard way. Always starting at the bottom and working to the top.

My life began to change not because of a class I took, because of the way I applied the knowledge I learned in the class. And to this day, I apply the knowledge that I learn works.

That is really what the Cornerstone is about, becoming aware of the knowledge and then applying the knowledge.

We all know not to eat high sugar but how many of us actually apply that principle.

So when I decided to start the Cornerstone, it was really an opportunity to let people apply the knowledge they already know in a different way that allows them to stick to it.

The Cornerstone is also about congruency. What you see is what you get. Real hard core life happens in the everyday. Not to be dismissed. But to be used as education.

 

To learn more about the Cornerstone simply go to Cornerstone Class Page

Today I am anxious. Not overly just noticeable. I was not until yesterday.

I slept well. I exercised and I meditated. I even put myself into a light trance.

And still when you know you have an appointment with breast health for the mammogram and ultrasound you had yesterday because of the lump you found a couple weeks ago, there are anxious moments.

Some would tell me, including myself to give it over to God, that there is nothing one can do until one has the results.

Others may tell me their story.

All I want is the results to be given so then I can know what to do.

Anxiety is caused by not knowing what to do.

So as I write this, I realize that I am enjoying the anxious moment. It really is interesting. I love being able to feel. There was a time in my life where nothing was allowed in.

And so now I go to my 9 am appointment knowing I have done everything I can think of.

I have done one thing that is amazing. I have not wasted two weeks on the possibility of a bad result. One hour. And for that I am grateful.

So you are so excited about your new business, your multi level marketing business, or your financial investing business. And your mentor says to talk to all your friends and get them to buy your products because of course they will because they care about you.

This model is the best way to ruin friendships and to have your friends run from you, not take your calls, and generally not like what you are doing.

Of course this is the extreme, but there is a lot of truth to it.

Here is the problem, when we pitch our friends, we have an expectation that they will buy from us. When they do not, you may be disappointed. When they do and your product has problems, they will be disappointed.  And our friends today, we need to keep them as friends.

This took me a long time to really understand. I am a salesperson. I sell everything. I was in Costco the other day and I sold the protein powder that I use to the woman who was looking for something that did not taste bad.

How I sell today is very different than how I sold at the local seminar company I worked at for several years. They relied on you getting your friends to take their classes and you were substandard and let go if you did not do that. This type of manipulation is changing. The vibration of the people is changing. Thank goodness.

No one likes to be pitched. No one likes to be manipulated. No one likes to be let go.

So how does one become successful when dealing with a new business.

One:

Giving with a Pure Heart

Random Acts of Kindness was an act that was done without expectation of return or without agenda. When we give with the pure heart we are giving with no expectation of return. Including my name in lights or on a large cheque being handed to the organizer, a thank you card, a recognition of any kind, and anonymously. When I have done this in the past, it felt wonderful. Even that is an expectation, the expectation of feeling wonderful. How to do a Random Act of Kindness.

  1. Spontaneity works well since no thought is involved. Less time for the ego to get wrapped around it.
  2. Give what you feel is right
  3. Do not tell anyone
  4. Have a lot of fun doing it
  5. Give from the energy of love, pure love.

Some examples of pure giving

  1. Buy coffee for the person in the drive thru behind you
  2. Buy someone’s groceries
  3. Open the door with a smile for someone-women-open the door for the gentleman and smile sweetly at him.
  4. Send loving energy to everyone around you
  5. Walk around with a smile on your face
  6. Feed the homeless
  7. Support a family anonymously at Christmas
  8. Trust yourself to give
  9. Learn to receive from others with grace.
  10. Smile with your family, leave the drama alone for the holidays.
  11. Do not judge your friends and family

Giving with a pure heart means there is nothing for you to be gained. No business, no recognition, no nothing. When you do this, you allow the gift to be received without the attachments of you around it so it can be enjoyed to the fullest. Buying flowers or cards with a positive note on them and just putting them peoples windshields or putting the flowers or food on the doorstep are just a few examples. Merry Christmas!

It can be paralyzing. It can stop you from making any decision, good or bad. It can stop you from having the life you really want.

And there is not much you can do about it.

Or is there?

Normally what we do is pretend it is not there. Or we get angry at things that are completely irrelevant. Or we blame others when things do not go our way.

The reason this stops you is because the need to control everything is so great that we will not go into the unknown. We control everything. We take little risks.

And in the process we forget to live our life, to really live our life.

We stay safe. We hide from things we really want. We forget to dream. We lose sight of who we really are.

One may have a hard time discovering whether this is the case or not. How do you know?

If you blame others, if you think you are letting life pass you by, if you have a hard time making a decision, or if you feel like you must be in control, then perhaps the fear of the unknown has you in its clutches.

Here are few tips to begin to solve this.

1. Realize that this is what you are doing
2. Start today by doing one thing that supports knowing besides controlling, take a small risk, such as driving differently to work, wearing a new colour, and build on those successes.
3. Get an accountability partner that will support you in being more flow with, not so controlling.
4. Hire a good coach who will see you through this.

The Fear of the Unknown is a scary proposition. One can overcome it by beginning to live life in a way that is very liberating.

The Cornerstone is a great beginning to a journey of understanding that the unknown will never stop you again.

Letting Go of the Past—Simply

Ever had someone tell you to let it go?

Ever have someone talk about the same thing over and over and you want them to let the subject go?

When I hear the words of the hit song Let it go, it speaks to a world of isolation that is suddenly broken free of the good opinion of ourselves and others.

Our past, our world of isolation, keeps us from doing many things in life such as starting a business, going on a date, saying what we really wish to say, speaking our truth, and so much more.

So when I hear the statement Let it go from someone, it sometimes sounds like a callous statement that speaks of  judgement and pain.

Yes I understand the person may have heard the person talk about the same subject for a long period of time, however it does not speak to compassion at all.

Most of the time, we mean well. We really do not want the person to be in pain anymore

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